I am so thankful for all of you. I'm feeling especially thankful today because I am seeing how much you guys care for each other. You affirm, encourage and support one another in amazing ways. I feel appreciative because I'm the recipient of your care as well. It...
3 Observations from Speaking at a Unitarian Universalist Church I spoke at a Unitarian Universalist Church today. I've been there a couple of times before. Here's how I got acquainted with them: After I left the ministry and the church, I was a teacher at the...
(PERSONAL NOTE: I want to thank you guys for your support during our son Jesse's illness. He still has a pericarditis and pneumonia. But now he's home, getting rest, taking drugs and hopefully getting better. He's 25, active, and very frustrated right now. All our...
I'm becoming increasingly aware that even though I wasn't in a cult, I feel like I'm learning how live beyond leaving one. Do you know what I mean? Most of us know the signs of a cult: one charismatic leader very strong herd mentality uses of guilt and shame to...
I have difficulty with these two extremes: 1. wallowing in misery 2. floating in fantasy That is… we can get stuck in our own suffering and even become attached to it. The world becomes a very dark and nasty place, and we become its helpless victims from which there...
One of the areas of our life most affected when we go through major spiritual change is our relationships. Fellow-workers, employers, family, friends, and even enemies. Significant others, partners or spouses. So today's letter is about our romantic relationships or...
Today I want to talk about belief. Specifically, I want to talk about how belief is the biggest barrier to change. I realize that many of us are still believers or agnostic or atheists. So I want to be sensitive to that. Therefore, I'm going to share my own story. I...
Today's letter is about a very sensitive topic: victim-mentality (***So right from the beginning I want to assert that I know there are real victims in this world and even among our membership. I know what it is like to be victimized. I and my family! There have been...
I'm not talking about your romantic or marital ex. I'm talking about your ex-church. Now, before I begin, I want to clarify a couple of things: These can apply even in existing relationships (your partner or church now). These are not all the lies, but a few of them...
I know I'm probably preaching to the choir. You guys are amazing at speaking your mind. The level of honesty, vulnerability and openness and your skill at articulating complicated, intense and deep thoughts and emotions amaze me every day. I know we are seeing almost...
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