It’s been a strange week. On the one hand, I have continued to say that Christianity is my home but I have cottages everywhere. I’ve also continued to say that Christian is my family of origin. I have also said that even though I’m out of the church I’m still in the...
Is it Okay to Grieve the Loss of Things that Weren’t Good for Us?
Is it okay to grieve the loss of something that wasn’t good? Of course. Any kind of grief must be respected. The feelings of sadness we might feel for losing anything at all is valid. Why is this? Partially, it’s because the things we lost were a part of a situation...
The Tragic Outcomes Religion May Induce
The other day a person on Facebook posted a video of the Pentecostal revivalist A. A. Allen healing a boy at a tent revival meeting. The boy had a rare disease that caused him to be born without bones in his legs. The video claims he healed the boy and he could walk....
Do You Still Believe or Not?
I got a message from someone this morning. I’ve only met her many times. I know her son. But we haven’t talked in years. So I found it strange and out of the blue to receive it. Here’s part of the message: “I remember when you left the ministry and I appreciate the...
I Love You. I Just Don’t Understand You.
Last year I had a dream in which my father told me I should perhaps come to see him because he wasn’t sure he had much time left. So I did. That week I caught a plane and went, by myself, to see him. I was there for a week. It wasn’t until one of the last nights there...
Protect Your Inner Child
I do not like it when people mock other religions. I also do not like it when people mock the stages of faith that I have journeyed through. I’m not sure how this happened, but somewhere along the way I learned that it was not only negligent and shortsighted to...
The Mystery of Lost Friendships
I want to write to you today about the mystery of lost friends. What I mean is those people who were your friends, in fact very good friends, who suddenly drop off your radar. I mean online and in offline. I’m talking about people who you would have sworn are your...
A Sad Story of Feeling Like We Lost
I want to share something with you guys because I can’t do it anywhere else and many of you were involved in this dramatic story. Just a bit of background: Many of you may remember a couple of my posts from a couple of years ago about Tony Jones, a progressive...
A Friend Removed from Her Church
This letter is on the same theme as the last two: relationships. Like you probably already know, when Lisa and I left the church, it wasn’t long before pretty much all of our relationships were severed. That wasn’t the plan, but the incoming pastor decided that’s what...
Goodbye to the Ghetto
Goodbye to the Ghetto Not longer ago in our private Facebook group I shared that I was experiencing some grief. I feel like I’m losing something and moving on to a new place that is unfamiliar but not unpleasant. I appreciate that some of you have reached out to me...
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