I think this letter is going to be short and to the point. I'm writing this for me. I hope it helps you too. If you need it. I've been thinking about this a lot. If I could summarize why I left the ministry and the church as I did in just one word, what would it be?...
Letter: The Church’s Victim Mentality We Must Discard
Today's letter is about a very sensitive topic: victim-mentality (***So right from the beginning I want to assert that I know there are real victims in this world and even among our membership. I know what it is like to be victimized. I and my family! There have been...
Letter: 3 lies your ex wants you to believe
I'm not talking about your romantic or marital ex. I'm talking about your ex-church. Now, before I begin, I want to clarify a couple of things: These can apply even in existing relationships (your partner or church now). These are not all the lies, but a few of them...
Letter: What Do You Do if Someone Won’t Forgive You?
I genuinely hurt a good friend many years ago. I regretted it as soon as I did it. He hasn't really forgiven me. I've made every attempt to repent and repair, but it changed our relationship. We rarely, if ever, see each other anymore. There have been many people I've...
Letter: Deconstruction and Loneliness
In last Sunday's weekly letter I issued a gentle warning about how deconstruction can affect your relationships. So I want to develop this topic a little further to talk about how, even though you might be in relationships with family, friends or partners, you may...
Letter: Let My Issue a Warning about the Dangers of Deconstruction
Hello my friends. Before I begin, I would just like to thank the 76 TLSers who completed the survey. Some very important things came to light and I'm going to be implementing changes in an attempt to meet your needs and fulfill your desires for The Lasting Supper. The...
Letter: The Costly Cost of Change
It's been a lovely weekend here. Thanksgiving weekend in Canada. The weather's been beautiful. I've had a couple cups of coffee. Lisa's gone to work for the day. Feeling a bit lonely as well as a residue of sadness. Can I be super vulnerable with you guys today? I...
Video: how we respond to disappoinment and hurt
I ran 4 miles today and got passed by three young whipper snappers talking away like they were relaxing on a beach. I gave them a go though. I fantasized that they were just starting when I was just finishing. They passed me right when I returned to the bottom of my...
Letter: Zero Tolerance for Bullying
One of the most important aspects of community is strong moderation. If you are not involved with the community, make sure someone is. With my online community, I am not only involved, keeping an eye on things, but I have what I call "scouts" who love the community...
Letter: Don’t Let Anyone Rush Your Grief
Don’t let anyone rush your grief! You’ve left the church. That’s heavy! Grieve it. Feel it to the full. Go ahead and deny that it hurts. Then bawl your eyes out once in a while. Get angry. Get frustrated. Think about going back then change your mind again. Get...
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