I debated whether or not to add this link to Pam’s thread, but since it deals more with feelings than traditions, I decided to post it on its own.  A friend of mine who writes a blog called Ruby Slippers, made this video on coping with holiday grief.  It was helpful for me.  Empathy just emanates from her; she is heavy with the reality of the pain that the experiences of this time of year can inflict on us.  In the video she reads a poem by Marilyn Chandler McEntyre, and quotes Brene Brown.