Are You Unfolding?
One of the most difficult things for me to realize during my deconstruction was that I didn’t have to be or do anything.
In the religious cultures I grew up in, there was the constant challenge to do those 2 things:
1. Be something.
2. Do something.
In my context it was usually:
1. Super Christian
2. Convert the world.
But eventually I began to realize that what was most important was for me to be myself.
The light first went on when I realized I couldn’t love my neighbor as myself if I didn’t love myself.
And I couldn’t love myself unless I knew myself.
And I couldn’t know myself unless I was myself!
For some reason, the idea that my authenticity, or even just my attempts to be authentically me, was the most important thing I could do for myself.
It started early for me. In my mid-twenties.
But it took decades to unfold to where I am today.
I’m still unfolding.
But you know what? That’s okay, because that’s the point!