Are You Unfolding?

One of the most difficult things for me to realize during my deconstruction was that I didn’t have to be or do anything.

In the religious cultures I grew up in, there was the constant challenge to do those 2 things:

1. Be something.

2. Do something.

In my context it was usually:

1. Super Christian

2. Convert the world.

But eventually I began to realize that what was most important was for me to be myself.

The light first went on when I realized I couldn’t love my neighbor as myself if I didn’t love myself.

And I couldn’t love myself unless I knew myself.

And I couldn’t know myself unless I was myself!

For some reason, the idea that my authenticity, or even just my attempts to be authentically me, was the most important thing I could do for myself.

It started early for me. In my mid-twenties.

But it took decades to unfold to where I am today.

I’m still unfolding.

But you know what? That’s okay, because that’s the point!