REVERSE-ENGINEER YOUR HAPPINESS
The kind of religious culture I grew up in taught me that pursuing my own happiness was wrong.
Not just wrong. Sinful!
I had to pursue God’s happiness and then he would make me happy. Maybe.
Once I left that toxic religion, I had to learn to make myself happy.
The first question I had to answer (and it took me years to do it), was: “What do I want?”
Once I figured out what I wanted…
once I figured out what would make me happy…
then I started making it happen.
What makes me happy? I will make it happen!
As a result, I’m happy.
Is everything perfect? Well… there are things I’m still working on.
But I know what it is, and I don’t feel guilty creating a life of happiness for myself and helping those I love do the same.
Yesterday morning Lisa and I were having our coffee. I said, “I’m happy!” She said, “Me too!”
It took determination and work to get here.
But we did it. Guilt-free too!
And you can too. Figure out what happiness is for you, then start building it.