THE USELESSNESS OF ARGUING
Something I discovered many years ago is arguing is useless.
I’ve never changed my mind after an argument.
I’ve never changed anyone’s mind after an argument.
Discussions, yes. Arguments, no.
I discovered this when I was a pastor. So I studied how Jesus handled disagreements. Aware that almost always questions asked of him were meant to trap him, he did one of two things:
1. walked away, or
2. answered their question with a question.
In other words, don’t engage or defuse the argument before it begins.
So, I put this into practice in my personal life. If I detect that the question isn’t a sincere expression of curiosity or a request for understanding, I do one of two things:
1. I do not engage in arguments, and…
2. I compose a question that defuses or derails the argument.
The first is easy, the second one takes practice.
But they really work.
Some people might interpret this as evasion.
So what? I think it’s smart to evade wastes of time.