How I’m Ending a Toxic Relationship

It was like a light came on. I suddenly realized I was in a toxic relationship. For years! Here’s how the light came on: I noticed my feelings. I was angry. I had just been disrespected and condescended to. I HAD JUST BEEN VIOLATED! The choice was immediate: continue...

A Few Good Friends

Last night Lisa and I went to a party. There were tons of people there. Many of them were from the last church I pastored. Lisa and I agreed that it was awkward at moments, uncomfortable almost always, and strange to say the least. But the one thing we did agree on is...

Making New Friends

This is a kind of continuation of last week’s letter on community. Probably the most difficult issue for Lisa and I once we left the church was community, or friendship. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about it because loneliness sucks. Lisa and I were anything but...

You Have the Right to be Fiercely Independent!

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned since I launched The Lasting Supper in 2012 (Wow! Four years ago!”) is that TLSers are generally speaking fiercely spiritually independent. Let me explain what I mean by that. When I started TLS, I initially thought it would be...

Letter: How Do I Deal With Loss?

How do I deal with loss? Not very well. I’m human. When I experience loss, I don’t pull out my trusty roadmap for suffering and loss and follow the guidelines. No one has written such a book because each and every response to loss is unique to that individual. There’s...