"FASTEN YOUR SEATBELT AND TAKE THE RIDE" Recently, someone was sharing his deconstruction process with me. For him, it’s very terrifying. At one point he said, “But I’m determined not to throw out the baby with the bathwater. I won’t give up my relationship with Jesus...
“3 Ways to Know You’ve Been Attacked by a Wolf”
“3 Ways to Know You’ve Been Attacked by a Wolf” (This was shared on my nakedpastor site today but I wanted to make sure TLSers saw it, so here you go.) 1. You feel picked on. Wolves send a flock into a panic so they can separate the most vulnerable. Many of us...
Your Whole Life Doesn’t Have to Fall Apart
When I left the church in 2010 I was numb for about a year. I thought I was doing awesome when in fact I was completely unaware of how unwell I really was. I was going through a massive transition and my favorite way of dealing with stress is to turn off...
Pressure Change!
Each new season of growth is initiated by a birth, and often it is just like a birth… where we have to learn how to breathe all over again in a brand new environment. It's an adjustment. For some of us, it takes a little bit of time, while for others, it could take...
Steps to Making New Friends
Steps to Making New Friends As many of you know, one of the worst aspects of leaving the church is losing all or most of your friends, and the difficulty of making new ones. We may experience extreme loneliness after we leave the church, and some of us fall into the...
Why it was Hard to Leave the Church
Why It Was So Hard to Leave the Church I’ve left the church. Many times. The last time I left was 8 years ago. It was painful every time. Here’s just a few of the reasons why it was so difficult to leave. 1. Fear: When I left the church, a profound cloud of fear...
Our Very First TLS Post from 2012
I decided to look at what our very first TLS was when I launched it in 2012. This is it! It's about dealing with our suffering in healthy ways: Here is a good exercise to use to help you progress out of the pain of suffering. Is this your experience? Try these steps...
Beliefs are Real
I just returned from Toronto to be with my sister, Cathy, who had just had breast cancer surgery. I was there to spend the week with her following the surgery. I’m so glad I did. One night she was experiencing severe pain in her right breast. The pain escalated to the...
Are You Trapped, or Afraid?
One of the worst feelings for me to feel is “trapped”. There have been several times in my life where I’ve felt trapped. In a job. In a relationship. In a belief system. I find it interesting now that each and every time I felt trapped… sometimes for years… it took a...
How I’m Ending a Toxic Relationship
It was like a light came on. I suddenly realized I was in a toxic relationship. For years! Here’s how the light came on: I noticed my feelings. I was angry. I had just been disrespected and condescended to. I HAD JUST BEEN VIOLATED! The choice was immediate: continue...
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