I’m creating a course on “How to Leave the Church”.
(If you have any ideas you want to throw my way, I welcome them!)
Anyway, I’ve been doing some research on it, and I was shocked to discover that there aren’t that many resources online.
Well, not really shocked.
I Googled “leaving the church” and found that most of the articles basically recommended 3 things:
make sure everything’s okay between you and the church’s leadership
make sure you don’t have any negative feelings
make sure you quickly find another church
I immediately thought: Would you recommend this to a woman leaving an abusive husband?
make sure everything’s okay between you and your husband
make sure you have no negative feelings
make sure you quickly jump into another relationship
No, you shouldn’t.
The underlying assumption is it’s all your fault.
And, like some friends in TLS Facebook pointed out, this is just the church’s way of maintaining control over your life even though you want to end the relationship.
It comes down to having the courage to do what you know is best for yourself.
You don’t have to explain yourself to anybody.