by David Hayward | Aug 23, 2020 | David's Letters, I'm confused
THE GUILT OF JUST BEING Do you ever suddenly catch yourself feeling guilty for not doing anything? We hear about the importance of being before doing. But so many of us grew up in religious cultures that demanded constant holy activity, including attending church...
by David Hayward | May 26, 2019 | David's Letters, I'm scared
“FASTEN YOUR SEATBELT AND TAKE THE RIDE” Recently, someone was sharing his deconstruction process with me. For him, it’s very terrifying. At one point he said, “But I’m determined not to throw out the baby with the bathwater. I won’t give up my...
by David Hayward | Jan 28, 2019 | David's Letters, I'm confused
DECONSTRUCTION AS PROGRESS There are misconceptions about deconstruction, which is the changing of our beliefs, the loss of our faith, and for many of us… leaving the church. Some of the misconceptions are these: We are correcting our mistaken spirituality. We are...
by David Hayward | Sep 9, 2018 | David's Letters, I'm scared
Why It Was So Hard to Leave the Church I’ve left the church. Many times. The last time I left was 8 years ago. It was painful every time. Here’s just a few of the reasons why it was so difficult to leave. 1. Fear: When I left the church, a profound cloud of fear...
by David Hayward | Sep 1, 2018 | David's Letters, I'm okay
DO IT YOUR WAY I tell everyone who is deconstructing, changing their beliefs, or losing their religion, or whatever: “Do it your way!” Each one of us is a unique individual with our own paths before us. How we become spiritually independent will look different from...
