In the year 2000 Lisa bought me a Taylor acoustic guitar… a 210 CE cutaway with pickups, to be exact. The most beautiful sounding guitar I’ve ever played. I had been playing for years… songwriting and singing in the church for most of my life… performing as well as...
Sick Relationship with Self, Others, and the World
Lisa and I are going on a much-needed vacation to visit my family in Toronto where we will just relax, eat, drink, and be merry. We will navigate around difficult topics like Trump and Fox News. But we’re experts so we are not worried about it. We’ll have a great...
The Importance of Jumping in the Deep End
Most of us were taught to only read, learn, and think what was handed to us. We were to digest and regurgitate what was fed to us. We were only to expose ourselves to that which was recommended. I clearly remember like it was yesterday when I was a country pastor of...
My Dream about Father Issues
So today I want to share a powerful dream I had the other night, then try to walk through it together with you to maybe unlock its meaning. It’s powerful to me because it involves the symbol of father. Here’s the dream: I am sitting across the table from two guys....
Revisit “The 5 Stages of Deconstruction”
This is a video I made over 3 years ago specifically for TLS, but a year ago or so I opened it up for others to view. It’s not viral or anything, but on about a weekly basis I hear from someone who has really benefited from it. So I thought I would share it again with...
You are ALL Beautiful!
The other day I said to a good friend, "You're perfect. It's just integrating the pieces." I remember once reading the theologian John Calvin and he said that the Fall represented the disintegration of the person. Unfortunately, he grimly believed the disintegrated...
It All Came in a Package
It all came in a package. The abuse I suffered. The control I was under. The theology I was fed. The denomination I was in. The community I was provided. It all came as a package. Some people tried to convince me, and some still do, that it was just the abuse I...
On the one hand thoughts, on the other, actions.
It has always fascinated me how our thoughts can be so detached from our actions. This realization started growing in me when I was a teenager in the church. They would say and do things that shocked me because it was so out of character from the way they proposed to...
The Mystery of Lost Friendships
I want to write to you today about the mystery of lost friends. What I mean is those people who were your friends, in fact very good friends, who suddenly drop off your radar. I mean online and in offline. I’m talking about people who you would have sworn are your...
Community and Orgasms
No, the title of this letter is not clickbait, because I do want to reflect on community and orgasms. I’ve experienced real, authentic community… the kind that is beautiful and unforgettable… the kind we want to experience all the time and enjoy consistently. This...
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