I am the parent of three adult children. I love them very much. They are an adventurous bunch. They do things like climb mountains, skydive, swim with sharks, and other activities that worry me. I’ve told them, “Why can’t you just get a regular, steady job, marry,...
Who Turned Up the Heat?
When I decide to ramp up my self-exposure, I always brace myself for a new onslaught of criticism. I first typed “embrace myself”. That too! So, what’s been going on recently? Why the new onslaught of criticism? I noticed a link in my nakedpastor dashboard to a...
Fear or Freedom
I think back on the times when I felt trapped. My freedom came immediately upon realizing that I wasn’t trapped at all, but only afraid of the consequences of acting upon my freedom. Fear. That’s the biggest obstacle to almost everything. Now, it wasn’t that the...
Anxiety Tries to Steal the Moments
Lisa and I and our three grown children had about a week together. So we decided to go for a vacation. We did the Cabot Trail of Cape Breton. Absolutely stunning! We enjoyed incredible views, waterfalls, camping, hikes, good food and drinks, but mostly the love of...
Get help!
This letter is short and sweet. My argument is simple: Get help! What I mean is: use whatever resources are available to you to invest in your own personal growth. When I got last year’s taxes done, I saw in black and white (and red) exactly how much I invested in my...
Sick Relationship with Self, Others, and the World
Lisa and I are going on a much-needed vacation to visit my family in Toronto where we will just relax, eat, drink, and be merry. We will navigate around difficult topics like Trump and Fox News. But we’re experts so we are not worried about it. We’ll have a great...
What If My Triggers Become Phobias?
I was invited to a Toastmasters meeting last Tuesday night. I went. But not until after a bunch of trying to decide and coaxing from Lisa. I was nervous about going. I didn’t want to get trapped into some arrangement I was unhappy with. Lisa pointed out that my life...
A Gift I Got Lisa from David Whyte
I love David Whyte's work. Check him out if you haven't come across him already. A couple months ago he informed us that he'd written another poem, "Sweet Darkness", and collaborated with a woodcut print artist to create this beautiful edition. I ordered one and got...
Love and Torpedoes Be Damned!
I hope you are all having a lovely holiday. We, at our house, celebrate Christmas because we appreciate the import of the story and the legitimate and powerful message the story conveys for all the earth and all those in it. I also appreciate how you celebrate this...
Don’t Be Afraid
I have spoken with many of you one on one. I’ve spoken with many others as well. The topic: the change of beliefs and the fear that accompanies it. What’s the first thing I say when someone describes to me the changes in their beliefs and the terror they are feeling?...
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