Steps to Making New Friends
Steps to Making New Friends As many of you know, one of the worst aspects of leaving the church is losing all or most of your friends, and the difficulty of making new ones. We may experience extreme loneliness after we leave the church, and some of us fall into the...
When People Talk About You
When People Talk About You Someone told me yesterday that if I didn’t offend someone by noon then I wasn’t doing my job. I don’t intend to offend people. But I do. I just want to underline the errors and highlight the truth. This is a very offensive sport. It’s...
Respect for Religious Diversity
This is a video I recorded for TLS before it was TLS and was DavidHayward.ca. Enjoy!
Ending Bad Relationships
Ending Bad Relationships Lisa and I have been talking a lot lately about relationships. I expressed to her today that it’s curious to me how she and I are in totally different places when it comes to ensuring our relationships are healthy. She ends a relationship if...
Be Confident!
Be Confident! Last night we met some friends in a pub. During the conversation I shared how my daughter Casile has been encouraging me to get out my guitar and start writing songs and singing again. “Dad! You’re so good. Do it!” I said I’ve been wondering if I should...
Why it was Hard to Leave the Church
Why It Was So Hard to Leave the Church I’ve left the church. Many times. The last time I left was 8 years ago. It was painful every time. Here’s just a few of the reasons why it was so difficult to leave. 1. Fear: When I left the church, a profound cloud of fear...
Do It Your Way
DO IT YOUR WAY I tell everyone who is deconstructing, changing their beliefs, or losing their religion, or whatever: “Do it your way!” Each one of us is a unique individual with our own paths before us. How we become spiritually independent will look different from...
Take Care of Your Vessel
Take Care of Your Vessel: Whether or not you believe you have a soul or a spirit or an inner self, I do believe we can agree that it is our body that is our vessel. It’s how we are in the world, and how we get around. Our body is our vessel. What I’ve discovered when...
What Do You Want?
What Do You Want? I left the ministry several times. One of those times was in 1995. It was my decision. I’ll share this story with you soon because it’s amazing. The point of sharing this today though is I was suddenly unemployed, without an income, and had no idea...
