Why I Don’t Want TLS to be Perfect I have said in the past that TLS is perfect. But I want to explain what I meant by it. *** Spoiler Alert: Do you remember the end of The Last Samurai? In it, the Samurai Chieftain is looking for the perfect cherry blossom. This is...
Letter: Be you! It’s your right and responsibility!
Be you: It’s your Right and Responsibility What I have come to realize is one of my most essential driving force is my need to be me. I not only want to be me, I need to be me. Throughout my whole life, in hindsight, I now see that almost every challenge I came up...
Letter: your weeds and your wheat
Good morning my friends. Have I ever told you my analogy of the trellis? If I have, bear with me. I want to share it again because it’s meaningful and helpful to me right now. First I have to tell you how I came up with it. Many years ago, my spiritual director,...
Letter: you don’t always have to do something
You don’t always have to do something. When I left negative beliefs and toxic relationships behind, I realized I was feeling a lot more peaceful. One of the things that religion likes to do is pound it into our heads that we have to change. You have to change the...
Letter: Hanging Out With TLS-types
This last weekend Lisa and I were invited to a community is Chessetcook, Nova Scotia, to give a talk Saturday night. We have known many of them for years. We were there five years ago. So it was refreshing to see them again. The community meets at the house of John...
Letter: How to Speak Compassionately
Good day my friends. Today I want to talk about compassionate speech. It was inspired by one of our members posting this quote of Domo Geshe Rinpoche: ”There are many who are interested in gender-neutral language, as well as practicing open-ended statements in...
Letter: How to Deal with Family
Last week, someone in our Facebook group brought up a question about how to deal with family and coming out to them theologically. (*** If you’re not in our Facebook group, please just reply to this letter and ask me to get you in. That’s where a lot of the...
Letter: A Quick Way to Self-Approval
So, you are totally confused. Your journey does not make sense. You have difficulty understanding where you are and therefore even greater difficulty in loving yourself and articulating yourself. You’re feeling a mixture of shame, frustration, and maybe even guilt....
Letter: How Do I Deal With Loss?
How do I deal with loss? Not very well. I’m human. When I experience loss, I don’t pull out my trusty roadmap for suffering and loss and follow the guidelines. No one has written such a book because each and every response to loss is unique to that individual. There’s...
Letter: My Trap of Self-Pity
I want to share with you all a very personal story of mine. Please bear with me. I think this will be a short but to the point letter. As many of you know, I’ve had a very tough couple of weeks. It’s been grueling actually. It threw me into a funk that was very...
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