they go on without you
After you make the momentous decision and leave a relationship or a community, or if you are required to leave, you will hear about how great they are doing without you. It might hurt. News Flash: Their lives are going on without you! Another News Flash: You could not...
how can we get past the anger?
Anger is a natural, human response to being hurt. It can be as slight as being called a name to being the victim of an outrageous injustice. Have you read the beautiful forum, "why am I SO angry after SO long?"? Kudos to you amazing story tellers and listeners! Did...
turning a nightmare into a fairy-tale
I love this happy verse: I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow (Jeremiah 31:13). Let's put another spin on it: the things that used to make us sad or mad can now make us glad. That is, what used to hurt then makes...
upgrade on a train that has left the station
First of all, I want to invite all existing members to upgrade, if you wish, to an annual membership. It is $75/ year instead of $7/ month. So a little money saved. New members joining have the option to choose monthly or annually. Some folks at the beginning were...
the process is the product
I remember some years ago a friend of mine started a small group in his home. He said that he was looking forward to having a really dynamic discussion group. The first few meetings went fine, as typical. But then conflicts began to arise and conversations got...
reading out of your comfort zone
I find it very helpful to keep a book on the go that is from outside of my world. I do this for a couple of reasons. 1. Open mind: It keeps my mind open. It helps me remember that there are other worlds and perspectives than my own. Sometimes it actually encourages me...
structure your sojourn
When you leave the church, you might feel a little lost. You might feel that your spirituality, like water poured out of a bottle, is just spreading out in all directions with no focus. You might feel as though your spirit has dissipated like helium in the atmosphere....
the power of words bad and good
We all know the power that words can have over us. They can lift us up or beat us down. For me, it takes about 100 compliments for me to start feeling good about myself, and about 1 insult to take them all away. I exaggerate, but you get my point. You have to really...
lonely is a lonely word
A very articulate post just put up last night by one of our members cut close to the bone for me, "Socially Inept By Design". Like so many of you have expressed throughout the forums, and, I suppose, one of the reasons why many of you are members of TLS, is exactly...
