Why I’m Exhausted

For Pride Month I posted a lot of cartoons advocating for the LGBTQ+ community. So many people hated on me, sent me nasty messages, and unfriended or unfollowed me. All believers. I’m exhausted! And discouraged. Yesterday when I went for a run I was grateful that I...

Deconstruction as Progress

DECONSTRUCTION AS PROGRESS There are misconceptions about deconstruction, which is the changing of our beliefs, the loss of our faith, and for many of us… leaving the church. Some of the misconceptions are these: We are correcting our mistaken spirituality. We are...

Here’s Our Manifesto!

OUR MANIFESTO:   I first published this Manifesto for Spiritual Independence in 2012 when I started The Lasting Supper. Many of you might not have seen it. So I’m posting it again. I post it every once in a while to remind us of what some of our values are....

Meet a Member Podcast: Graham Jenkins

Today I had the pleasure of talking with one of our members, Graham Jenkins. I enjoyed our conversation because his journey is quite different from mine. A lot of my deconstruction included my disentangling myself from a life enmeshed with the church. His spirituality...

a FREE GIFT and a couple of announcements

Hi Everyone: I did this drawing the other day called “The Voyage of Saint Brendan”. I was thinking of you guys while I drew it because he totally reminds me of us! So I’m giving you a free high-quality download of it to use on your devices or to...
Sophia: Solitary

Sophia: Solitary

I abandoned everyone. I therefore felt abandoned. Because I was. I became solitary. Like a hermit. Solitude is lonely. It’s supposed to be. But sometimes the loneliness is felt so severely like a cold fog seeping into the marrow of your bones. But solitude and...
Sophia: Distant

Sophia: Distant

Sometimes I process things by talking about it. Or writing. Articulating it helps me know what it is. Words smith what I’m thinking into shape. One of my most common coping mechanisms is to go distant. Ever since I was a child I remember being told that. “You’re...
Sophia: Defiance

Sophia: Defiance

The lion cowers not. I came in like a lamb. I will go out like a lion. For so many years I complied. For so long I restrained myself under the constraints of the expectations and demands of others. In order to keep their peace I kept my tongue. This, I was told, this,...
Old Versus New Commandments

Old Versus New Commandments

Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees when they were banging on about who would be married to whom after the resurrection, the Pharisees got together (both groups liked nothing better than to test Jesus, except for their dogma that is), one of the Pharisees,...
Sophia: Tracks

Sophia: Tracks

Few people want to follow where I go. I remember reading about a Canadian explorer, David Thompson. The further he travelled into the wilderness the less men would accompany him. He would begin with an entire team with lots of food and gear, but end up with just...
Sophia: Bridge

Sophia: Bridge

This was one of the most difficult things I’d ever done. Burning that bridge. Cutting it down. Separating myself as if permanently. This didn’t necessarily mean forever. But I had to act as if it was. Like an axe! Look at all those people on the other side. All those...
Sophia: Hide

Sophia: Hide

It’s okay to hide. I did. Let me tell you why: Too many people wanted to find me and restore me to the me I was. To the me they think I am, and should be. I couldn’t let them do that. No! So I hid. I hid myself deep within myself, far away from their pitiful eyes. I...
Sophia: Pioneer

Sophia: Pioneer

I am a pioneer. I separated myself from the mainstream. I left the forest with its community of trees. I must navigate my own spiritual path, blaze my own trail, and find my own spiritual home. It’s been a while since I escaped. I’ve been through many traumatic...
Sophia: Wild

Sophia: Wild

While I was in captivity I was secretly aware of a wildness within me. I wouldn’t dare share it. Of course it was mostly theory without practice. At this point. I dreamed of it. I hid it. I sheltered it. I nursed it. Others couldn’t see it. If they did I would have...