"FASTEN YOUR SEATBELT AND TAKE THE RIDE" Recently, someone was sharing his deconstruction process with me. For him, it’s very terrifying. At one point he said, “But I’m determined not to throw out the baby with the bathwater. I won’t give up my relationship with Jesus...
TINNITUS, BIRDS, and NOTICING TRUTH
TINNITUS, BIRDS, and NOTICING TRUTH I have tinnitus. I don’t know what caused it. It sucks. I can’t hear things at high pitches. So I wear hearing aides that turn up the volume at that pitch so I can hear it. It makes a huge difference when I wear them, especially in...
“3 Ways to Know You’ve Been Attacked by a Wolf”
“3 Ways to Know You’ve Been Attacked by a Wolf” (This was shared on my nakedpastor site today but I wanted to make sure TLSers saw it, so here you go.) 1. You feel picked on. Wolves send a flock into a panic so they can separate the most vulnerable. Many of us...
Do What Helps YOU!
Do What Helps YOU! I’m hitting on this theme lately because I see so many people struggling with doing what they want or even need to do to be healthy and feel happy. Sure, I sometimes struggle with this. I’ll give you an example: The other day I felt like putting on...
THE USELESSNESS OF ARGUING
THE USELESSNESS OF ARGUING Something I discovered many years ago is arguing is useless. I’ve never changed my mind after an argument. I’ve never changed anyone’s mind after an argument. Discussions, yes. Arguments, no. I discovered this when I was a pastor. So I...
Helping in the Face of Naysayers and Haters
Hi guys. Boy, I tell ya, I get a real mishmash of messages from people. I went through a period last week where I was being attacked online again. It hurts me because I have a sign over my desk that says, “Just help people!” I only want to help people. But it seems...
You Don’t Need to Explain
Hi guys! I’m creating a course on “How to Leave the Church”. (If you have any ideas you want to throw my way, I welcome them!) Anyway, I’ve been doing some research on it, and I was shocked to discover that there aren’t that many resources online. Well, not really...
PUT YOUR OWN MASK ON FIRST!
PUT YOUR OWN MASK ON FIRST! Imagine sitting in an airplane with your kids and your oxygen mask drops down. Your first impulse is to get the masks onto your kids. But you remember the very clear instructions: “Put your own mask on first!” So you do. Let’s unwrap that...
Reverse-Engineer Your Happiness!
REVERSE-ENGINEER YOUR HAPPINESS The kind of religious culture I grew up in taught me that pursuing my own happiness was wrong. Not just wrong. Sinful! I had to pursue God’s happiness and then he would make me happy. Maybe. Once I left that toxic religion, I had to...
Growth Means Expansion
GROWTH MEANS EXPANSION I know I’ve spoken about this before, but I really do think this is important for us. I used to think of personal growth as linear. In this case, we progress along a line, a continuum, like a snail, slowly but surely. We leave our past behind us...
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