by David Hayward | Oct 25, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm scared
I’ve not only observed it in others. I’ve experienced it for myself! That is, I will go through a kind of deconstruction of a belief. Sometimes I react to a belief I no longer feel can hold up. I’ll go long in the other direction. Then, after my anger or frustration...
by David Hayward | Oct 18, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
Where the Heck is Lisa? Lisa is my wife. She is a member of TLS, but she is not a very active member. That is, she doesn’t post on TLS much if at all. She might make an occasional comment. But essentially she does not interact in our community. Maybe you’re wondering...
by David Hayward | Oct 11, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
I spent the day yesterday with two friends of mine, Brad Jersak and Peter Fitch, both theologians. Brad lives out in western Canada but comes to St. Stephen’s University every semester to teach crash courses. He was out this way and actually asked me to come and join...
by David Hayward | Sep 27, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm confused
When we change our beliefs and our allegiances, it’s also necessary to change our feelings about our feelings. I don’t know about you, but I was taught to not only distrust my feelings, but to neglect them, ignore them, repress them, apologize for them, and even...
by David Hayward | Sep 26, 2015 | Podcasts
A couple of years ago I interviewed Robin Kirk for our Meet a Member podcast. In it she talks a lot about the onset of her deconstruction, including her debilitating fear of Hell. I thought it would be helpful to go back and interview her again two years later to see...
by David Hayward | Sep 21, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm confused, I'm okay
An important announcement first: the forums are reopened! Thanks to your extra donations I was able to hire the help needed to get the forums back up and running again. Your generous donations are devoted to making TLS the best experience possible for our members! So…...
by David Hayward | Sep 13, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm sad
#TW suicide Hi guys! I want to tell you a story that might help you understand what helped to build my philosophy behind TLS and why I do the things I do the way I do them, and why TLS is the way it is. This story starts in the winter of 2007. Sarah, in the...
by David Hayward | Sep 6, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm confused
Good day everyone! We’re enjoying a long weekend here in Canada called Labour Day Weekend. The weather’s been awesome. I want to thank all those who donated towards the development and maintenance of TLS over the last week. A few of you asked me to remind us again...
by David Hayward | Sep 5, 2015 | Podcasts
Today’s podcast features one of our members, Tracey Cullers. She’s quite active in our Facebook group, along with her husband Bruce, so you’re probably familiar with her. I love her delightful updates, especially the ones that ask us how we’re...
by David Hayward | Aug 30, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
It’s the 3rd anniversary of TLS. Hooray! I’m very happy. I had no idea we’d go this long. TLS is a thing! But I want to make it a better thing. And I want it to become a model of even better things to come and more things to come. So I’m asking you to read this if you...
by David Hayward | Aug 23, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm confused
Hi peeps! People are often confused about my views about religion. Some think I’m anti-religious. Some think I’m pro-. I’m neither. I hope I’ve come to a healthy place when it comes to my relationship with religion. So I want to talk about the different stages of my...
by David Hayward | Aug 17, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
On Saturday Lisa and I, along with my sister, my brother-in-law, and our 3 nephews, went to the local Farmers’ Market. It was a beautiful day and crowded with people. There was a steel drum band playing. The smell of fresh food being made was in the air. Lots of arts...
by David Hayward | Aug 9, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm confused
Happy Sunday my friends! Today’s weekly letter is a simple one. I’m giving you a gift. It’s a free download of my new eBook I’ve put together, with the help of Eric Lawrence, a member of The Lasting Supper. It’s the beautiful printed version of “The Five Stages of...
by David Hayward | Aug 3, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
the 4 major players in my (relatively) healthy deconstruction: I think this letter will be short and sweet. I want to share with you what the four major players were in my relatively healthy deconstruction. I say relatively because I did experience some major bumps...
by David Hayward | Jul 26, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
Why I Don’t Want TLS to be Perfect I have said in the past that TLS is perfect. But I want to explain what I meant by it. *** Spoiler Alert: Do you remember the end of The Last Samurai? In it, the Samurai Chieftain is looking for the perfect cherry blossom. This is...
by David Hayward | Jul 19, 2015 | David's Letters, I'm okay
Be you: It’s your Right and Responsibility What I have come to realize is one of my most essential driving force is my need to be me. I not only want to be me, I need to be me. Throughout my whole life, in hindsight, I now see that almost every challenge I came up...
