by David Hayward | Aug 31, 2013 | Feelings
Try to not say one negative thing about yourself all day. Not one negative thing! Don’t say, “I suck at this!” or “I really messed up!” or “I’m such an idiot!” or “I can’t do it.” Just try it for one...
by David Hayward | Aug 30, 2013 | Feelings
Malcolm Gladwell is coming out with a new book, David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits and the Art of Battling Giants. I’m looking forward to reading this one just like I have all his others. From what I gather, he suggests that rather than there being the odd...
by David Hayward | Aug 29, 2013 | Feelings
I remember a few years ago I read through the Old Testament book of Joshua in one sitting. I was first of all overwhelmed with the violence. But I was also very impressed with how many times the phrase “Do not be afraid” was said. This is always something...
by David Hayward | Aug 28, 2013 | Spirituality
I started running a few years ago. I hated it. My first run was a mile. Horrible! But I kept it up. Now, a few years later, I can call myself a runner. I used to be in a state of running a few times a week. Now, I’m in a stage where I can legitimately call...
by David Hayward | Aug 27, 2013 | Exercises
Because some of our members have requested this, I am listing 10 of the most helpful books I could find in my library about committed relationships. I’m sure there must be some missing that we’ve loaned out. But here’s what I got. (Now, I want to...
by David Hayward | Aug 26, 2013 | Feelings
I take my dog Abby for a walk a couple of times a day. At one point this morning as we were walking I said, “You’re a good dog, aren’t you Abby!?” She looked up at me and opened her mouth as if she was smiling, skipped a little in her step,...
by David Hayward | Aug 24, 2013 | Spirituality
Here’s a fun little spiritual exercise you can do when you have a spare moment to browse the internet: Go to google search. Type in “Jesus and (fill in the blank)”. Try “Jesus and Buddha”. Or “Jesus and Native Spirituality”....
by David Hayward | Aug 23, 2013 | Ideas
My favorite scientific reading is that of physicist David Bohm (1917-1992). I suspect he influenced my thinking to the extent that I had my waterfall dream which in turn prompted me to start writing the z-theory. His scientific and quantum theories are fascinating....
by David Hayward | Aug 22, 2013 | Feelings
I am suspicious of ideologies and systems. Two quotes from Naomi Klein: “I think anyone who falls in love with a system is dangerous, because the world doesn’t comply, and then they get angry at the world.” “Ideology serves as sort of a cover...
by David Hayward | Aug 21, 2013 | Feelings
Love doesn’t control people. We have 3 grown children. I would love to control them so that they would always make wise choices, always be safe, and never do anything to hurt themselves or others. But I can’t do that. They are individuals who have to live...
by David Hayward | Aug 20, 2013 | Feelings
I’ve only watched a couple episodes of Hoarders and that’s all I want to watch. We will keep everything from twist ties to TV sets. The emotional, sentimental and psychological attachment we may develop with our things is shocking! There are memories...
by David Hayward | Aug 19, 2013 | Podcasts
We are doing these Meet a Member podcasts because: They help us realize we’re not crazy. They might introduce us to a new potential friend. They can provide us wisdom and resources for our own paths. I’m always amazed at the fascinating personalities, the...
by David Hayward | Aug 17, 2013 | Feelings
I was Skyping with another TLS member yesterday and asked her a simple question: “What do you want?” It’s a simple question, but one I used to find impossible to answer. Many years ago when I was in one of my times of confusion, a mentor asked me the...
by David Hayward | Aug 16, 2013 | Feelings
I want to tell you a story of what happened to me last night. Lisa and I were invited to a friend’s house. She was one of my leaders and we were great friends. But when I left the ministry and the church we had a kind of falling out. We’ve been working on...
by David Hayward | Aug 15, 2013 | Podcasts
Today we’re meeting Charles McGarry. He and his wife Kellie are both members of TLS. He had been in pastoral ministry for many years but left ministry and the church in 2011. He’s come a loooooooong way. CLICK HERE TO LISTEN
by David Hayward | Aug 14, 2013 | Ideas
The great French psychologist philosopher Jacques Lacan said that desire is not a relation to an object but a relation to a lack. We don’t desire what we have, but what we don’t have. The second noble truth of Buddhism is that desire causes suffering....
